Overcoming Fear

Overcoming Fear

If you want to be light, you have to let go”

Whatever it is that scares you or holds you back from being free or freer, there are always way to over that that annoying anxiety.

Sometimes taking time out from everything around can be good for you emotionally and physically. Adrenalin is the worst when your in your worst state; sweaty palms, over-reacting, confusion and over racing mind.

Distracting yourself for 10 or 20 minutes can help to calm you down and bring you back to earth. Hot baths, cups of tea and meditation will also help you to calm your nerves and to be easy for a little bit.

Quiet the mind and the soul will speak

Another great to to overcome fear is asking yourself, “What’s the worst that can happen?”

I mean really whats is the worst? When you’re anxious about something – be it work, a relationship or an exam – it can help to think through what the worst end result could be. Even if a presentation, a call or a conversation goes horribly wrong, chances are that you and the world will survive. Sometimes the worst that can happen is a panic attack. And a night in the ER is seriously not worth it.

Just breath.

2 other great ways to ease your mind and overcome whatever it is that is keeping you so anxious is, Exposing yourself to the fear and then welcoming the worst.

Expose yourself to the fear

Avoiding fears only makes them scarier. If you panic one day getting into a lift, it’s best to get back into a lift the next day. Stand in the lift and feel the fear until it goes away. Whatever your fear, if you face it, it should start to fade.

Welcome the worst

Each time fears are embraced, it makes them easier to cope with the next time they strike, until in the end they are no longer a problem. Try imagining the worst thing that can happen – perhaps it’s panicking and having a heart attack. Then try to think yourself into having a heart attack. It’s just not possible. The fear will run away the more you chase it.

And lastly my awesome people, BE REAL!

Fears tend to be much worse than reality. Often, people who have been attacked can’t help thinking they’re going to be attacked again every time they walk down a dark alley. But the chance that an attack will happen again is actually very low.

Similarly, people sometimes tell themselves they’re a failure because they blush when they feel self-conscious. This then makes them more upset. But blushing in stressful situations is normal. By remembering this, the anxiety goes away.

After its all said and done my people, Reward yourself, do the very things you were fearing repeat the the very things that’s brought the anxiety in the first place; when you get through it with a breeze, remember I can do it.

Ladies a way to Simplifying your wardrobe

Put simply, it’s a way of minimizing your clothes into a small collection that easily mixes and matches. Instead of stuffing your closet with items you barely wear, make like Marie Kondo and strip down to a few key staples you love. While the idea is far from new, “Unfancy” blogger Caroline Rector recently popularized the craze and started a capsule movement.

To try it out for yourself, here are a few ground rules to keep in mind:

  1. Limit your wardrobe: About 30-40 items is a good rule of thumb. Clothes, shoes and outerwear count. Pajamas, accessories, fitness apparel and special-occasion outfits do not.
  2. Shop for the season: The total list should last you around three months (the length of an average season) until you’ll want or need to refresh.
  3. Keep it simple: The goal is to minimize. Store or donate what you don’t need and try to avoid shopping … that is, until you start planning for next season!

This A-line navy skirt is a serious staple. You can channel your inner Parisian with a striped shirt over a chambray collar, or go gab with the girls by pairing a slouchy sweater with a denim jacket and trendy block heels. The world is your oyster!

The same black shift dress can feel completely new when paired with different pieces. A polka-dot printed blouse underneath adds an air of office-appropriate playfulness. But switch those serious stilettos with some sexy booties, add a few accessories and you’ll be ready for a night out on the town.

The biggest misconception about a capsule wardrobe is that the clothes need to be super simple (read: boring). The truth: absolutely not! Fashion-forward pieces, like a graphic T-shirt and boyfriend jeans, are way more versatile than you think. And that stunning faux leather jacket is less than $60 — ka-ching!

What to look for:

Try to find well-made, multi-purpose items that work well either layered or worn alone. And, of course, pick pieces you’ll love to wear! Here are the 30 items theLVguide.com chose.

From www.today.com

Financial freedom = less sacrifices.

Financial freedom = less sacrifices.

Since you’ve become minimalist have you thought about money the same? Do you still have the same mindset of money and finances.

In life we truly believe money is the most important thing in the world. As a saying goes,

Money makes the world go round.

We find ourselves sacrificing and putting on hold the most important things in life, life family, friends, social lives and freedom; for money. We even forsake our health and well being working 50 to 80 hours a week just to make more money that we don’t know how to manage or use properly, which puts us in the position to need to make more and more to get by.

As minimalist we downsize, reevaluate and change our thought process. In that self evaluation our finances should be one of the biggest priorities; by learning to mange it better.

Proper money management = financial freedom. Financial freedom = less sacrifices.

Take this; whenever you are about to purchase something ask yourself, “Is this really a need? Will this bring any benefit to me? Is it worth my freedom (financial freedom)?”

Is what you are buying or investing your money in bringing any real value to your life? A cup of coffee, a new pair of shoes, a $100 outfit or $30,000 car?

Make sure every purchase you make bring immense value to your life and well being. As long as you are sheltered, have clothes to keep you warm, a great book to keep you in touch and great experiences to keep joy in your life; money won’t have such large impact on your life because you have chosen to spend your money on things that matter. A true minimalist living a truly simple lifestyle will know, ‘Material things & Money are not what brings happiness’. The freedom to live your life comfortably and at peace bring great value to our lives.

Your freedom is worth more than sacrifices.

Minimal temptation today.


Today I found myself obsessing over several pairs of shoes,  I even stop and asked one lady where she bought her shoes from. Yes I couldn’t help myself.

Now if you read my last post you will know I mentioned having a serious shoe obsession.

You will also notice I mentioned ridding over 90% of my clothing just 3 weeks ago. IN ONE DAY

I started thinking, “well maybe it won’t hurt to buy just one pair. ” I mean I did just rid all my shoes but 2 pair.

But then I asked myself is spending $90 for a pair of shoes that I’ll only wear 3 or 4 times and then be on to the next, really worth it?

Becoming minimalist, one of my extended goals was to desire material things less.

I never really desired much but shoes…and Zaxbys lol.

But hey you get it :D.

I was really proud of the fact that I didn’t give in today. These past 3 weeks have been a little challenging. But today I truly see that it is all worth it.

And I look forward to this exciting journey of living life in the simple lane.

Thought I’d I share a little temptations with you today!

What has been your must tempting moments as a minimalist and how did you overcome it?

My first 3 weeks of Minimalism

My first 3 weeks of Minimalism

10846330_630069087097351_6122739759715426999_nI guess I haven’t full introduced myself. I’m Chaymeriyia Moncrief and i’m a rookie minimalist. Or so I call myself.

3 Weeks ago was my very day (really midnight) I decided I was fully ready to take the first step toward minimalism.

I’ve read and learn about the lives of some very poplar minimalist like Joshua Fields Millburn & Ryan Nicodemus. Spending over 3 months reading and researching being minimal still didn’t convince me I could do it.

I constantly talk the talk of wanting to live a more simple and less complex life and wanting to be clutter-free in my surroundings, but I still found myself putting it off; so what finally made me give in.

Well like I said, i’m only in rookie stages but these pass 3 weeks have really shown me that I am  fully capable of downsizing, owning less and simplifying things.

I started with my clothing and shoes.

Now many that know me, know I LOVE shoes and have a urge to purchase them constantly to the point I have more shoes that I have clothing.

I also consider myself a mini hoarder, I like to keep things like old notebooks I’ve written in (poetry), birthday and graduation cards, old books I’ve read over a thousand time and on and on.

In order to convince myself I didn’t need those things I packed them away. (ever sit something somewhere or pack it away and totally forget about it?) If, yes that means it something you don’t really need and can clearly live without.

This exactly what I did to 80% of my clothing, shoes, keepsakes and notebooks; this was my way of proving to myself that I didn’t need any of these things or I could function with less of it.


This is a before picture of only about 40% of my clothing and shoes. Not to mention the box and shelf filled keepsakes I have. (not pictured) Taken 3 weeks ago 


Pictured here is now 90% of my clothing. I have minimized to 15 articles of clothing and 3 pair of shoes.


I then cleared my room to a little less clutter by removing room accessories and packing them away. I even removed the rails from bed and downsized my covers to make it less cluttered and less stuffy. It makes the room feel bigger, cleaner and more relaxing.

Things like spending less, slowing your life down a little (just a little), keeping a peace of mind and and fully understanding yourself and true nature is what helps you maintain a minimal life. It allows you to go after the things you always wanted too, to even travel more or spend more times with love ones.

But hey, who am I to say all of this i’m just a rookie minimal playing in a minimalist game. 🙂

Over the last 3 weeks I have been teaching myself to understand ME more, proving to myself that I really don’t need any extra material things to have a peace of mind and be happy; and that simplicity leads to great things; but more importantly a peace of mind.

Until next time.

Working & Relationships while Minimalist

Working & Relationships while Minimalist

Living a minimalist lifestyle, you base your life around simplicity, cluttered free and living a peace filled life.

When you have fully loaded yourself into the minimalist lifestyle you began thinking in full minimalist mode. Your environment becomes a great part of this lifestyle because it helps you maintain your peace of mind.

From your everyday home surrounding, your work environment and your peers environments.

I have a few questions a lot of minimalist debate on:


  1. Do minimalist prefer to be self employed?
  2. Can minimalist fully function in fast pace work environments?
  3. What jobs are best for a minimalist who is fully adapted to their lifestyle, and want to keep their life clutter free even at work?

Relationship: Whats your take?

  1. Minimalist & Kids
  2. Minimalist & messy roommates
  3. Minimalist with WIFE & KIDS

How do you or would you deal with the 3 when too trying to live your life at a minimal?

Living a more Simply Life

Living a more Simply Life


Many people long for a simple life away from all the chaos that seems self-inflicted. The first step to embracing this new form of lifestyle is to understand what simplicity means to you and then live by that definition. Here are eight suggestions on how to live a simplistic lifestyle.

1. Limit your information intake

Your world is awash with information. The traditional forms of media are ever-increasing in number, and each of them has content that fills 24 hours of every day. The internet is another information whale. Your contacts will also have a lot to share with you at any particular time. Today, its easy to bury yourself with information. You can follow thousands of people on their social profiles. You can also follow thousands of websites, blogs, and even companies. For many people, the need to keep up with all this incoming information is unbearable. A simplistic life for you needs no information overload. You have to accept the fact that you can never exhaust all of the information that is available in the world today. Just dedicate some time, and when that elapses, stop consuming until the next day.

2. Savor each moment

You should think more in a less-hurried way. Drink or eat slowly so that you actually feel the taste of the food in your mouth. If you are doing a task such as driving or reading, then try not to rush to finish the task and jump to another one. You have to stay in moment for some time before you are able to make it memorable. Do not ruin the experience by rushing through it. The good news with savoring experiences is that the people who follow the simple suggestion become relaxed and happy, even if they change nothing else in their lives. Savoring each moment brings a feeling of contentment in you.

3. Create a list, but only work at one item at a time

Without a plan that leads you to simplicity, you will not be able to live the simplistic life. Come up with a list of all the things that you need to do to have the life you want. Lists rarely make people change their behaviors, and that is why for this particular list, you will only have to deal with one item at a time, then cross it off the list. Do not create timelines or goals other than the resolve to finish doing the item on the list. Come up with another list when you are done with the present one.

4. Spend more time with the people who matter in your life

The Pareto principle states that eighty percent of our successes and results come from twenty percent of the things you do and the people you deal with on a daily basis. Let this 80/20 rule work to your advantage. Identify the people who matter in your life, such as your family and close friends, and then spend most of your time with them at all costs. Soon, you will discover that you are peaceful and feel no obligation to do unnecessary things just to impress strangers.

5. Make big cuts

When you are transitioning from a chaotic life to a simplistic life, it will be hard for you to notice any change. Absence of change evidence can cause you to slump back into your chaotic life. The best way to get past this resistance problem is by undertaking big transition steps. Make a big cut. For example, you can get rid of your car and that will take care of parking expenses, cleaning expenses, insurance, and a host of other duties related to owning a car. You will feel like someone just took away a burden from your life. This experience will give you the strength to keep adopting a simplistic life.

6. Learn to stay idle and alone

You will only be contented with your life if you can be comfortable in your own company. Materials and people do not necessarily make you a better or worse person; it is your attitude and view of life that makes you good or bad. Take time off and just do nothing. Stay off of your phone, do not listen to anything, and do nothing. This time off can last for at least five minutes to as much as a day, but do not use it an excuse to avoid doing your duties. Take time off regularly and you will understand yourself better. In addition, you will make better decisions and be comfortable with changes that are ongoing in your life.

7. Embrace a filling and storage system

Order is an essential thing in life. A simplistic life is full of order. Come up with a filling system for all your physical and electronic files. Store them under clear labels so that you will not spend much time and effort when you need to retrieve them. Use a search program for your electronic documents and embrace services that allow you to sync files from one device to another. In your offline world, buy baskets, bins, and anything that can hold your items when they are not in use. Store everything in appropriate places every time you are through with them.\

8. Embrace minimalism and frugality

Many people avoid talk about minimalism and frugality because to them, these words imply that they have to let go everything that they love. Just like simplicity, the concept of being frugal or minimal varies with every individual. This does not mean that it is necessarily a bad thing. To have a simple life, you need the power to manage your desires and intentions. One way to do that is by taming the materialistic urge inside you. Accept that there will always be newer, shinier, better-looking things that appeal to you. Most of these things are merely complimentary or substitute goods and services. The key to staying frugal and embracing a minimalist lifestyle is to know what you need and then avoid the urge to take up its additions. Think of the whole concept as a way to live an efficient life; your first step would definitely be to eliminate wasteful purchases and desires that lead to those purchases.

You may choose many other things to make your life simpler but the eight suggestions highlighted above will have the most impact in your life.